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Question for the Day: With the advent of social media making our announcements for us (birth, break ups, engagements, weddings, new jobs, etc.), what are the etiquette rules for when to change your “relationship status?”
Do you have to talk about it… “Jules, I changed my Facebook status to “in a relationship” you’d better change yours and don’t you dare put “it’s complicated.” Or do you just sit on it and never change “single” until you are actually “married?” Or perhaps… somewhere in between?
If your relationship reminds you of Katy Perry’s bi-polar anthem “you’re hot then you’re cold, you’re yes then you’re no, you’re in and you’re out, you’re up and you’re down, you’re wrong when its right, It’s black and it’s white. We fight, we break up. We kiss, we make up…” do you just maintain a non-status until you’ve been actually broken up for a certain period of time or embrace your inner drama-mamma and post the changes as they happen?
Do you race to inform your inner circle first or let them see it along with everyone else? If you break up with someone, do you wait 24 minutes or 24 hours before you change back to single? Or perhaps wait for the other person to change it — kind of like a high noon shoot out to see who pulls the trigger first.
I’ve had people use the ‘ole status change on me to announce their intentions and I have to admit, its never gone over well. I’m a fan of communicating about any relationship intentions, D.T.R. (define the relationship discussion) or “status” change before its actually delivered to the social media world to devour and comment on. Otherwise, it feels manipulative or coercive.
Of course, there are days when I want to change it just for giggles. I’m resisting that impulse today.
So, what are your preferences for the “status change?”
